Confessions.of.a.NYC.Lezie

I never actually talked about what happened with The German in fear that she may be hurt by it. I received an email from a reader wondering what happened to The German. So here is the story:

Remember when I went to Boston to visit her? Okay, well the weekend went well. I met a couple of her friends and they were absolutely charming. We hung out, walked around…I got to know her better but with every hour passing by, I realized that I was not attracted to her like the way you would if you wanted to date someone. Its not that she was dull or unattractive, I just didn’t feel a connection between us. Usually, if I don’t see a connection within the first few minutes I am talking to you face to face, I just give up and let it go. I hate wasting my time, and I sure hate wasting other people’s time. She might actually feel the same way, I am not too sure. In fact, after I came back to NYC we hardly spoke. I wasn’t trying to be malicious. I just couldn’t tell her that there wasn’t anything…I have a really hard time admitting to someone that there is no possible chance. I don’t like seeing people getting hurt (I’m sure she wouldn’t be hurt). Even with The Gym Addict, I broke up with her via email (sad and pathetic - I know) because I couldn’t see her getting all emotional and crying (I think she cried actually). I can’t deal with super emotional people. That is why I work in a field where you have to be a cold blooded asshole.


But anyway, like I said before, The German is someone that I really enjoyed talking to. Although we have a few things in common - the arts, dining and museums but on that scale, there were a lot of things we didn’t share. We were both raised differently, so we have different views on a lot of things. This is why I always say that I get involved with people with the similar background as me. It is easier to deal with, I don’t have to lower my standards for someone, instead I am on the same eye level. I like it that way. It has always been that way. I cant change for anyone. In fact isn’t it one of the rules of dating? Be yourself.


She is an intelligent girl, she has a lot going for her. She is currently in Grad School in NYC - for Textile something, I have to confess that I still have no idea what it is. I just don’t get it. I’m sure its super exciting but it is one of the few things that I have a mental block on. I don’t know why. I am so traditional in that sense, I am used to traditional master programs. Does that make me ignorant? But whatever floats her boat.


We are two extremely different people. I always hear that opposites attract- I call that bullshit. Whoever can tell me that they are currently with someone who is the complete opposite, I‘d give them 5 bucks. You got to have a few things that you can relate to whether it was the way we were both raised or the type of schools we went to or the lifestyle we each lead. Truthfully, I just thought that I was really different from her. When I spoke to my friends about The German, they were always wondering why her, what is so special about her.

It is again one of those theoretical questions about relationships that no one really know the answers to.