Kissing The German

See the story behind this title is actually very exciting. Ok, probably not for you, but definitely for me.

The German is someone I just met. We exchanged emails during the past weeks and we perfectly hit it off, we speak on the phone very often and our conversations are as thought we’ve known each other for a long time. They were just flowing, and I can’t even think of any awkward silent moment, that’s how intense and great they are. Besides the fact that she is extremely smart, witty, and cute and a hot German and…into the Arts and dining and museums, she is absolutely the sweetest person you will ever meet. I joke about how she will have to toughen up once she is in NYC.

The German endured a 4 hr bus ride from Boston just to come see me in the city on Saturday (for just a couple of hours). First, I didn’t know she came down sorely to have dinner with me. If I knew then, I probably would have asked her not too but I am glad she did. I had an amazing time and so did she.

We started off at this Afghani restaurant in midtown, which did not look great from the outside, nor inside but we walked in and absolutely not a soul in the restaurant. Sometimes, I really hate being the only person eating somewhere, but this place wasn’t too appalling. Of course, I let the German chose what to eat since I had no clue about Afghani dishes. Whatever she ordered was delicious. I definitely recommend Afghani food. So we order, and I ask for the wine list – there were none. I got nervous and was thinking, “What am I going to do without wine?? I don’t want to look like I am nervous” I ran across the street to a deli and grabbed whatever red wine they had on the shelf. Let me tell ya, drinking wine eased the situation a lot better. The German noticed that I wasn’t making any eye contact and was completely aware that I was nervous (she told me the next day). First, I do NOT get nervous around ladies. I am usually the one who makes them nervous. But there is something about this German. I wasn’t nervous to the point where I was stuttering or had sweaty palms or shaking uncontrollably. I was just not making eye contact at first (on the subway or at the restaurant). But when I did, I noticed how splendid her eyes were and how she really – really looked right at me when she talked.

So then, we finished the wine, food was delicious and we wanted to grab some dirty cocktails. We walked over to Mercury Bar, which is one of my favorite places to hang. It’s really trendy and they have really good Calamari. We had our drinks and talked and I got to know her a lot better and vice versa – although, I think I revealed some things that I never tell anyone. Guess it’s a good sign.

By the way, on our way to Mercury, we stopped at a corner (red light of course) and talked about our abs. Seriously, I think only lesbians compare their abs. It’s like this conversation starter –“hey, you have great abs, so do I, do you want to see?” c’mon, I don’t think heteros even think about that.

Fast forward – we decided that it was time for us to get going (1. I didn’t want her to see me getting buzzed, 2. She had to catch her train). We ended up walking to Grand Central and along the way, listened to our ipods and compared our playlist. Ya know, you can tell a lot about someone just by what they listen to.

Anyway, we get to GC… stuff happened… and I am not telling.

Ok, ok, usually I don’t talk about my dates especially when they have the URL to this blog. But since she kept insisting and well actually asking if I would blog about what we did…I had doubts. I didn’t want to because I don’t want to jinx anything. Plus, at first I didn’t want to say anything as I realize that the skankier and crazier my stories are, the better received they are by you, my readers. So I figured I should just continue writing as normal. A Lezzie who talks about a non-disastrous date is not interesting, right?


I know the German will read this and already knows what I think of her, but you don’t. I must say that she personifies many of the things I’ve always been attracted to (humor, passion, drive, sense of adventure, deep respect, love for the Arts), but – and what I think is most interesting – is that she’s also a lot of things I never thought I would want (a lady from Boston and a Yankees fan – although she did accept an intimate switch to the METS). Yet, these opposite attributes actually make “it” work.

So what’s so special about The German? Here’s a “short” list:
- She likes my writing.
- She thinks I’m funny.
- She’s funny.
- She knows how to pick a fucking incredible dish off a menu that’s foreign to me.
- She loves my work – other ladies think its lame and I work too much.
- She’s good at what she is passionate about.
- She makes me feel comfortable.- She TOTALLY gets all my dependencies – Angelina Jolie, the U.N., Writing.
- She makes fun of me – I was the president of the GLBT club back in college.
- I make fun of her – she was the secretary of Student Government.
- We both went to liberal colleges and were the hot Lezzie everyone wanted.
- She’s from Boston, but knows how to get around in NYC –not by cab but by subway.
- She has an amazing vocabulary.
- She’s a grownup and doesn’t deal with drama.
- She said I was better looking than Mariah Carey.
- She says sweetie in a very kind and genuine tone of voice.
- Her nickname (not given by me) is Christ and Jesus.
- She is a gal from Boston who likes the Yankees and who is a really good kisser and who isn’t scared of taking a shot of lemon-drops with me.

Ok now I should stop before I embarrass myself any more than I already have.

The Kiss


I got an email this morning from The Writer with this. It is a poster every Lezzie had/has in their college dorm rooms. It is THE poster to have if you are into women. Her email says :
"Isn't this cute and simplistic and charming and absolutely adorable?"


and so I scrolled down and she added this picture with "Now, I don't know about you, but holy sweet jesus that's hot!"


Now...I really want to compare so stay with me here.
The original Kiss poster will remain my favorite until I die basically. There is something so simple and charming and cute about it. I love white things, tees, undies - it just looks so fresh and so clean. I love the girls in it...
Now the second picture is Hot in a very sexual way. I hate using the word "fucking" but that's the word that popped into my head when I saw it. Of course I was blushing because really it is hot. 1. they are topless and 2. they are little rockstar-ish with tattoos and funky haircuts and skimpy undies. They are obviously not your average Janes. but Oh Sweet Jesus!!!
ok I should stop. What do you guys think?



In honor of Thirsty Thursday

Drunk dialing is great because 1) the person you chose to dial is either someone you don’t really know, hardly talk to or someone you sorta don’t like but you want to rub it in their faces that you are cool and out drinking with cool friends. 2) If you are the drunk dialer you are very honest to the drunk dialee – you reveal things about yourself that you probably would never mention sober. 3) Alcohol gives you balls to do the impossible, like calling the person you have a crush on. 4) It demonstrates you have social obligations (happy hour with friends/coworkers) and it proves that you aren’t the loser at work/school everyone tries to stay away from.

Now mastering the Art of Drunk-Dialing/texting is a very, I repeat very complicated thing. Take notes. Print it. Memorize it.

The Rules are as followed:

1)When you have the urge to dial, never put your drink down.
2)Scroll through your address book.
3)I would suggest to make a drunk dialing group in your address book (when sober)
4)Tell your friends that you are heading out for some fresh air.
5)Fresh air means fake smoking, bum a cigarette – huff and puff but do not inhale. I don’t want you to eventually die. I’d feel bad. Actually no. I don’t care.
6)With a drink in your right hand, cigarette dangling on your lip, maneuver the index finger and gently (you will find it very hard to hit the green button so try as many times as you want) press the TALK button and put the phone to your ear.
7)Tap your foot on the ground. It helps
8)If no one picks up – say “next”. And dial the next victim
9)Talk. Extensively. Tell them “dude, come to [name of bar] it is so packed, the drinks are cheap and tits are everywhere.”
10) They will have that awkward laugh and say “who is this”
11) Hang up. It’s not a good sign.
12) Remember that cigarette? Flick it. If you can’t, toss it.
13) Walk back in.
14) Have another drink and forget that shit ever happened.

Drunk Texting is similar to Drunk Dialing but if you are highly intoxicated do not attempt it. Texting can be done indoors. That’s the beauty of non-verbal communication. You can be on the Flusher [Hi C!] and they sure wouldn’t know.

1) Find yourself a victim
2)Got one? Then text away.
3) I suggest using T9 if not applicable to your communication device then you are screwed.
4)If you misspelled a word, don’t go back and delete it. Your wasting time.
5) Oh got a text back? Great. Never interrupt a conversation and say, “I am vibrating” it just sounds wrong.
6)Give yourself an excuse to reply. Just say, “it’s my mother” sure it will make you look like an idiot. But who doesn’t pick up when their mom calls. Right?
7)Walk away and take that smile off your face and text your night away.


There are certain people you should never text/call and they are: exes, your boss/manager, your parents, and your old buddy from Jr. High. Don’t call/text anyone whom you have not spoken to in months. It’s just rude. Although it would be ruder if you didn’t call them and ask them how their day went.

Anyway, I hope these were helpful.


Good Luck.

Being Polite is Key

This morning I was trading e-mails with L.A. dude (because I have nothing else better to do - really), He has a girlfriend whom he adores and wants to eventually marry and procreate and have minis running around his white picket fence house in suburbia. Also he is parlaying this into a job as one of my non-paid therapist/counselors on issues of the same sex. As always, he was telling me to be bold and pick up the phone and I gave him a ton of reasons not to, which is one of my favorite things to do, next to working out and drinking wine.

He wrote “ it’s like going on a job interview, once the date is over, you need to follow up and thank her for having dinner and drinks.”

And because I am me: amusing, clever, charming and cute and all the nice words in the dictionary – combined with my boredom at work I had to write a sample of such a note.

Dear Madam –

Thank you for taking the time to meet with me. I enjoyed speaking with you about your life and how my skills and experience would fit with your unmet relationship desires. Your intrepid dream for the future, coupled with your very adorable smile and height, makes you exactly the kind of woman to whom I would like to offer my services.

I am sure that I would surpass your expectations if given the chance to assume the position of Girlfriend. I understand that there is a trial period what will range from several dates to many months, depending on a combination of said skills. During this period, I will be acting as a freelancer, keeping my options open to explore girlfriend alternatives to ensure that you provide me with the greatest balance of comfort versus excitement. Once this training period is over and we have mutually determined our match, I expect full benefits and an investment on your part in my future happiness.

Should you have any further questions about my qualifications which are not limited to, micro-waving, kissing, being supportive, making you feel like a WOMAN when you are really acting like a two year old spoiled brat, back-rubbing, laughing at your lame jokes, listening and displaying an above-average knowledge of beer and a basic knowledge of lesbian terms, feel free to contact me by e-mail, cell, text message, blackberry, IM, Morse Code, pigeon messenger or smoke signal.


I look forward to hearing from you.

Many thanks,

NYC.Lezie

Tales from the Office

New Intern: Where are you from?
Me: I grew up in Paris
New Intern: Where is that? Wait…next to France right?
Me: (Puzzled look) no
New Intern: oh
Me: It’s a major city IN France
New Intern: really, I guess you learn something everyday.
Me: Certainly.
New Intern: (giggling) […]


What? Is she serious?? And she is from Harvard for crying outloud. Ohhh those Trust-Fund babies kill me sometimes.
I have a friend whom I kindly refer to as Jew. Actually I have another one who is Jewish but doesn’t get that title because I already call her Brooklyn. But anyway, Jew is a subway surfer, meaning, she doesn’t hold on to anything/anyone on the subway – I mean I don’t blame her. It is the dirtiest place in NYC – except for the public restrooms. Jew likes to look cool and she does actually. She rides the subway from Park Slope all the way to midtown without having to touch anything. That’s really talent because the average Jane would be flying across the subway car, screaming because she just broke a nail OR she might grab someone’s arm because the subway stopped short.

The other thing that Jew does that’s really fascinating is that she has the balls to dance – not stripper dance, because she doesn’t hold on to the poles, but like full hardcore, head bopping, feet sliding, shoulders leaning and finger snapping dancing. She is never embarrassed. She always says that NYC is the only city where no one truly gives a fuck about you. Everyone is either doing the same thing; reading/or pretending to read or they are eating an entire meal from the Chinese take-out. Speaking of eating full meals on the train – have you ever encountered someone eating a full meal on the train? See I understand if you are hungry and you are nibbling on chips or something small…but eating fried chicken wings covered in ketchup and hot sauce with pork-fried rice on the side is just rude (what if other people were hungry?). Jew is also the girl who will sing (not loudly but you can definitely still hear her) this girl evidently does not care what the world thinks of her.

I am also guilty of being a subway surfer – I have not yet mastered the not holding anything on our fine NYC public transportation but I am getting there – slowly but surely. I am also guilty of pulling out some major air drums or air guitar. But I do it a little discreetly – or so I think. I am the one who taps or bang the ipod on the side of my thigh, or the motion of striking the guitar strings. I have a reason though, and its only because I can actually hear a song and know the chords. Or I am trying to figure out the correct chords. I can split each instrument in a song and tell you exactly what’s playing and what keys they are hitting. I thank the one-hour session of music lessons everyday after school when I was a tiny tot. So thank you Madame Boire. When I play my air guitar, it may look as though I know nothing about music OR it may look like I know a shit load about playing music – it really depends on who is staring at me. BUT I will not dance on the train. I will occasionally bop my head but not pull out a whole Britney Spears – Hit me baby one more time dance routine. Remember the old Britney? Memories – really.


When I see someone who is like Jew, I just look intently for a little and see if they have talent (I love people who have real talent) and after a few seconds I go back to whatever I was doing. I don’t think people like Jew do it to get attention, I think they just do it because they don’t care what people think and also, because it is NYC. Imagine you pulled a Jew moment in eastbumblefuck? Or even better…the LIRR or the NJT??

Oh man...

Totally forgot about mentioning my birthday bash this past Friday. So here is the 411. Cliff notes will be available at the end of the post – that way you will have to read the entire thing. Ha!

So Friday was supposedly going to be a mellow happy hour with some of my bestest minus the Pearl (she’s being a total bitch to the entire group of friends. She didn’t even call on my bday)

I got out of work at 4:45, well it was more like I ran like I’ve never done before, pressed the elevator door and I swear it took twice as long but anyhoo I walked outside and BAMMMMM my little shrimpster was there. We walked for what seemed forever because apparently there are no cabs available at 4:45 in the afternoon. I’m on 57th (no stalking please) and 8th and we had to go to my favorite bar “third and long” on 35th and 3rd. if you are not from NYC, you have no idea how far it is. Its far – lets leave it as that. Meanwhile, we are almost walking on the streets trying to hail a cab – me in freaking 4inch heels and in a tiny white babydoll dress which kept blowing and revealing what my momma gave me and shrimp in her usual jeans, tee and flips. This girl is veryyy tiny – like 5’1 and she’s almost jumping up and down waiving her tiny arms in the air and I, being the Jacqui O. that I am, just laughed and made believe I didn’t know her.

So finally after 20,000 miles we saw this little UES rich Jewish lady who gets out of her cab, I literally ran across 5th avenue and jumped in the cab before she even had the chance to come out and the driver who was Haitian told me “sorry miss, but I can’t take you” so I glanced at his ID (I always do – ever since that scary movie about NYC cab drivers who kill, along came a spider? I may be wrong.) I noticed he was hardcore Haitian (accent and all) so broke out some French mixed with whatever language I came up with which I taught was Creole but probably wasn’t. He turned around and laughed and said “anything for a little rich French girl”. Shrimp and I seriously looked at each other and whispered – wahhhh??

We get to the bar, very parched I must say. We head to the bar and I hand over my debit so that I can drink freely and not have to worry about looking for cash. Shrimp and I began to drink and drink and drink. The place gets packed within an hour and some of my old buddies from college showed up which made my night extra special it meant that 1. I won’t be bored and 2. more fun, and more fun on the dance floor.

A couple of beers and shots later- I wasn’t drunk and neither was Shrimp. We are true Champs, college taught us well. I go on to the dance floor and no one was there. I kept pulling people I didn’t know to come dance and get this boring corporate happy hour party going. I kid you not, as soon as I heard Rihana’s umbrella song, I went nuts – it is currently my favorite song. I got all my girlies to dance and all the fake guidos with their popped collars and pink shirts (here in NYC – we call those automatic douche-bags) stood in the back, bopping their heads and checking out everyone’s asses. I would have done the same, but knowing me – I wouldn’t pass a good song for that.

About two hours later, I tell the bartender that I would be right back because I was starving. I grabbed Shrimp and we went to the pizza place next door and I shoved a mushroom slice as fast as I could because I heard Bon Jovi playing. We ran back in, took another shot – there were amazing looking tequila shot girls serving some amazing tequila shots the entire night. Totally was not interested. So I went back to my corner with the girls and chatted and nursed a Budweiser.

Fast forward… it was about 930p when I decided to close my tab, which to my surprise was only 120 bucks, of course I didn’t pay because the bartender said that someone took care of it and all I had to do was come back and be merry. Good deal right?

Shrimp and I decided to walk to Penn station, along the way we made friends with some really strange peeps and also, shrimp kept saying she was hungry, so I told her to just grab one of the pretzels from those food carts people (they are everywhere in NYC) and she did – she just walked up to the cart and grabbed the pretzel, added some mustard and walked away. The food cart guy didn’t say anything I think he was more shocked than I was. I think she was done for the night (I asked her the next morning if she remembered the pretzel and she had no idea) poor child.

We get to Penn, hopped on the train and I pull out my book. First of all – I don’t remember what I read and secondly who the hell reads when they are intoxicated?? 45 min later I get home and I was going to walk up the stairs when my dad says to me “are you drunk?” and I told him “no pa’, you are seeing things” he just laughed and told me to go to bed.

I don’t think I’ve ever taken my clothes off so fast before – ok, I’m lying (there are other “important” times when clothes come off faster than…uh…lighting?) I stripped to my underwear and jumped into bed and turned on the tv and texted and spoke on the phone, slept in between, woke up and I ate again at 3am with my brother (don’t ask) and texted more and talked on the phone and slept and I woke up with the worst hangover of my life.

The end.


Ook cliff notes:

--Got out of work early
--Couldn’t get a cab so we walked half way
--Jumped into a cab and begged the cab driver to drive us to the bar in an unknown French-creole language
--We were so thirsty that within the first ½ hour Shrimp and I had 4 beers and 2 shots
--We danced, drank, and danced
--We walked to Penn station and made friends
--Shrimp stole a pretzel from the Cart man on 34th and broadway
--Jumped on the NJ transit and pulled out my book like I really read or understood anything
--Got home, layed naked on my bed watching tv
--Ate at 3am with the bro
--Texted, talked on the phone and more texting happened
--Finally passed out cold at 5am
--Woke up with a killer hangover

The end.